The new year always brings a combination of new plans and old regrets. I'm not one to shy away from new opportunities. In fact, I wholly embrace them. Good or bad, new experiences give us knowledge, perspective and usually a tough lesson.
After a tumultuous 2013, I needed to decompress. By comparison, 2014 was relatively calm. I began dating a couple of men casually. This, by itself, brought no shortage of shocked comments. Most were variations of: "You're dating TWO men? Why not just pick one?". Many people seemed shocked that the men were okay with me dating other people. (Um....kind of the point of a non-exclusive relationship....to be.....non-exclusive.....) I don't normally get too bent out of shape about sexism, but if I was a guy, I likely would have gotten nothing but high fives and "way to go". That's a pile of crap. There were a few people that thought it was awesome, and my sis gave me my favourite comment. She was proudly telling her friends about my dating exploits and said "you're a baller!", which I took to be positive comment, if a bit odd coming from a white girl who lives in the suburbs. I didn't mention that in addition to the two entrees, there were a couple of side dishes as well. I'm still dating both, and likely will continue until I decide those relationships are no longer for me, or I begin dating someone more seriously.
Short-term, casual dating was a great way to spend a year after getting out of a couple of serious relationships. (More on that later.) It gave me a boost of much needed confidence, introduced me to more people, and helped me move forward. But alas, 2015 arrived, and I decided it was time to further expand my social circle. I don't think I need a man to be happy, but I do think men are great. They're gorgeous, and sweet, and helpful......why the hell wouldn't I want a good one (or two) around?
As anyone who is over the age of 25 knows, meeting new people happens rarely, and mostly from one of two places: work, and the internet. While I'm not adverse to online dating, it can be annoying. So, I decided to try a new approach. I have signed up with a matchmaker. I thought it would be an adventure. I'm almost guaranteed to have a few great stories out of it. I'm pretty excited.
I filled out an initial application, and the matchmaker accepted me as a client. After registering, I filled out a longer application and submitted it with some pictures of myself. She's going to complete a character reference check (which sounds weird, but I actually think that's pretty awesome) then we'll be meeting up in a few weeks. I'll be sharing my experiences, and I'm pumped!