As an adult, you usually have two major options for expanding your social circle - work, or online. As a supervisor who works in a field that is close to 90% female, my options for male friends or potential suitors is limited. While many of my close friends are female, I tend to relate better with men. I find they speak more openly, and are less prone to drama. Every so often I find I need a testosterone boost, platonic or otherwise.
I've made some great friends this way, and gone on a lot of interesting dates. (Of course there have been a lot of bad ones....the internet is full of anti-social weirdos.)
Recently, around the time I signed up with the matchmaker, I also posted a profile on a popular dating site. I had no expectations going in, because if you've ever been a female on the internet, having expectations is an express trip to crying in a corner. I got a message from a guy who had a dog of the same (slightly rare) breed as me. He said that at a decade older than me, he knew I probably wasn't interested, but wondered if I'd be interested in a doggie play date. (Note to all men: If you've got a dog, don't be afraid to use it to get a date with a woman.) I agreed to meet up with him next week. I explained that I never had any expectations going into a blind meet-up, and I would put simply being occasional puppy date pals would still be a win in my book. He is a little bit older than I normally date, but it wouldn't be the first time I went on a date with someone a decade or so older.
I had briefly glanced at his profile, but eventually I went back and read more. Turns out my puppy play date is a doctor (and professor). A part of me thought for a second about calling my mom to tell her, because it seems like a thing that parents would be proud of. About 3 seconds after that, I started having an internal debate about whether or not it was ridiculous that I should put any value the notion that going on a date with a doctor was any better than any other profession.
I'm still a bit torn. I want to declare that it doesn't make a difference, but there's a part of me that thinks it's kind of cool that an accomplished, intelligent, interesting and attractive man thinks that I'm also those things. I've learned that online chemistry doesn't always translate well into the real world. My job involves supporting adults with developmental disabilities, and he works with vulnerable and under-served populations, so I hope that at a minimum we might find we can be friends. Our puppy play date is this week, so I'll let you know how it goes!